Is there a mocker in your life?


Proverbs 15:12--We've all felt the sting of a mock--a not-so-humorous insult, an unflattering imitation. Mocking is teasing on steroids.

In the moment we may not always realize that we were just mocked, but eventually the embarrassment sets in and we're not quite sure what to do next. We wonder why this person purposely disrespected us.

If we have corrected an immature person--who also may be a bit insecure--they might respond negatively. Attention placed on a fault can send some folks into defensive mode. Which is what this proverb focuses on.

But why do people routinely mock others? Experts say that mockers are unhappy about important matters in their life and as a result can be resentful of others they perceive as happy and well-adjusted in life.

Again, it's the insecurity issue and it's personal. They want to hurt or embarrass because they felt or feel hurt or embarrassed. It's a position of power when they have felt powerless.

Left undealt with, mockers can escalate into bullies. Bullies will mock and intimidate at random as well as specific targets. This can cause serious problems in a family, community, or job.

How do we handle mockers? According to this passage, mockers generally won't seek out help with this bad behavior. They may not think it is bad behavior--just a little joking around.

If we are in a position of authority over the person, then there's a better chance of speaking into the mocker's life.

If not, there are a few things we can do. First, know that what a mocker wants is a negative response from us--anger, hurt, sadness. They feel out of control, hurting others is a way to have control. When our response is calm or dismissive, we take away their power to manipulate us.

Next, forgive that person. No matter how it hurts, we forgive because we must.

Finally, pray for that person. If the root of their bad behavior is self-esteem then that's a potential for GOD's restoration. And who knows, He may open the door to minister to them.

May we handle mockers in a Godly way, my friends.

Proverbs 15:12--A mocker dislikes one who corrects him; he will not go to the wise. Tree of Life Bible Society Tree of Life Version - TLV #tlvbible#tlvproverbs

[WATCH Tree of Life Bible Society's CEO, Daniah Greenberg and me, Terri Gillespie dig a little deeper with this proverb. Check us out at Tree of Life Bible Society, Monday through Friday, LIVE at 8:30am EST. Watch previous episodes there as well. Stay wise, my friends!]

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